So I have tried to reflect and think about my Resolutions for 2014 for the past couple of weeks. My mind was completely blank and I really had difficulty with thinking about what I wanted out of this year as a whole. I finally have some resolutions and I hope sharing helps me with accountability.
1. Family time over phone time. This seems like a horrible goal and should just be a natural thing that is happening in my life, but alas the phone has taken over my life. When I should be focused and centered on my family at times my escape becomes my phone and checking all the social media, read blogs, play games, and really just mess around with my phone. There is no excuse why I can’t shut it down from 5pm-8pm for family time. I have had this resolution on my mind for quite some time, but just can’t seem to let it go. So perhaps I will do better if I write it down? I am trying to strategize ways to keep the phone out of my hands short of throwing it in the river. I really hope I can look back on this year and out of all my resolutions say I did this one well.
2. More date nights. So last year I did great with taking time for myself as I was able to lean on my husband to watch Lexi while I did things for myself (even if I did feel guilt at times). Unfortunately this is not the case for the hubs and I as we don’t live close to family and we haven’t leaned on babysitters as much as we should have this year. When we have taken time for ourselves it is to eat a meal without interruption and not anything active for us to do (even a movie added to that dinner would take it up a notch). Of course we have date nights when Lexi goes to sleep and we just have a monitor to watch, but we really need to take advantage of dates outside the house more often. I would even make a commitment to once a month. It is really easy for us to make plans with others (girls night, boys night, bachelorette weekend, skiing adventure, etc) with the confidence of knowing the other parent will be with Lexi, but it is really hard for both of us to leave her in the hands of others even almost 2 years later.
3. Keep up with 2013 goals. I would like to continue goals from 2013 as I really feel like these were life long goals I made last year. I want to keep giving, keep reading, and keep myself a priority throughout my entire life. As Lexi gets older I hope we can give as a family together, but for right now I enjoy giving and helping others. I hope to keep reading and increase my goal to 15 books this year, and of course to be there for my family in my first two goals I need to be taking care of myself as well.
4. Visit a place that I have never been. The husb and I have been together for 10 years and it has been a wonderful 10 years of starting traditions and having favorite places to visit. Some of our favorites are Vermont, California, Mexico, North Carolina, New Hampshire, and Connecticut. I love these places and they are our first stops, but it would be great to expand and try a new place this year.
5. Live Healthy. The second half of 2013 I really worked on being healthy (both fitness and eating well). Then I went on a work conference and got out of rhythm and then the holidays hit and now I am 2 months out of my routine. It is really interesting because I am normally focused on the scale (especially this time of year), but the crazy part of this goal is that I actually weigh less than I did prior to the holidays, but overall I just feel yuck. I am not even happy the scale says a lower number. Whowoulddathunkit? While working on my fitness and getting healthy I was part of a Biggest Loser group at my work thinking that would help motivate me. Unfortunately every week I was either remaining the same or going up in weight even though I was eating well and exercising regularly. I kept up my routine even though I was going to “lose” the Biggest Loser because somewhere between getting healthy and the scale not telling an accurate telling of my story I found I was happier focusing on health rather than weight. 10 weeks later and 3 pounds heavier I lost the Biggest Loser, but I also lost a pant size. It was the first time ever that I really saw that the scale does not show the whole picture. It was the first time I didn’t let the scale dictate how I felt about myself. It felt great and even though the holidays got the better of me and I weigh less I am motivated to keep healthy living in my 2014 goals because of how good it felt to eat healthier and work out.
So there you have it–my 2014 goals! It took me awhile to get focused on 2014, but now that I have some goals set I am excited for what this year will bring.